I WANT to act like that, but whenever something like that happens, I automatically loose it and call other people rednecks and cocksuckers And then I feel even worsre. I wish I could be nice to them or react camly, so they can feel slightly embarassed maybe
A family friend worked for the longest time in the insurance business before retireing. We were talking once and she told us how she had snapped and gotten angry at a client. She's felt bad for it ever since.
You really never know what the other person feels afterwards. So maybe they regret it. And maybe that's enough.
Also whenever there are people speeding or cutting me off while driving or something, I always imagine they need to rush to the hospital or something. Like, their grandmother may be dying. You never know.
I put myself in their shoes. I remember that I have times when I am upset, or frustrated at things beyond my control, and that I have lashed out at others when I meant to lash at myself. I remember that I am not so different from the person who is upset, and when possible I offer them a kind word and an open palm. It does me good to keep in mind that they, and I, are both human. Nothing more, nothing less.
That's excellent! I do that as well sometimes, especially when I'm in traffic. I have to disassociate myself with thinking that everything is personal, because it really isn't. Thank you for sharing this.
You're welcome! Thank you for your kind words. c: I do think people have a tendency to take things very personally- I know I've done that more than I care to admit. The important thing is to just keep practicing it, I guess.